'Enjoy the present': The People Behind Cheezcake Answer Intimate Questions About Love and Life #3

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Briana Viser • Writer and Editor
Mar 29, 2024 4:00 PM EDT

Welcome back internet queens and princesses. This is a special edition of CheezCake where we go behind the scenes of the brand to open up a dialogue about life, relationships, and love. From countless Reddit stories, to scrolling through content all day about love and relationships, we decided to share some insight with the world. Now, while we thought it'd be fun and cute to post about these topics, it doesn't mean we're trained in relationships or love. But with the six of us combined, we have years of experiences, boyfriends, dating, hilarious encounters, and more to laugh and jeer at while scrolling your phone. 

So today's topic: advice you would give your past self. It's always interesting to see other people's answers, and sometimes there's a trend about something I never even thought of. It can be educational and beneficial to see other people's perspectives about these things, to learn from and understand.

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  • 01
    Take things a little more seriously. Whether it be school, career prospects, or relationships. Take them more seriously, focus on something you know you want and strive for it, if you know he's not "the one," end it as soon as you know. Time is more precious than you think.
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    I would tell myself to slow down and try to appreciate the moments. It will be a long time before you get to where you're going and finally feel settled and happy, but along the way, you'll have some fun and good experiences that will make you who you are.
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    my This is a difficult question to answer. On one hand, insecurities and the bullying I faced as a kid led me to be the person I am today, and without those experiences, I wouldn't have grown into the compassionate, emotionally mature, proud gay man that I am today. I don't want to save myself from those experiences, but I can offer the voice of the positive role model that I work to be every day now for young gay kids who are struggling to accept themselves:
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    Kids will pick on you at school because you're emotional, but it's because they can't see how beautiful it is to feel things so deeply. You are going to feel alone in the dark for a long time. That darkness will threaten to swallow you up, but you will learn to love the little fire inside you that kept you going, no matter how overpowering the darkness may feel. You will slowly start to understand yourself through the love of others, and that will start your journey of learning to love yourself.
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    It gets better. Just keep going. Keep believing in yourself, and keep surrounding yourself with people who love you. Be the change you want to see in the world. Lead by example. You will be as happy as you dreamed of being, but you will have to learn to manifest it for yourself. It takes work, but it will be worth it in the end.
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    Enjoy the present instead of waiting for the next step.
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    Stop spending so much money. Start studying and taking your future seriously. Dump him. Tell more people to get lost. You're way cooler than you think you are, be confident.
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  • 08
    Be more gentle with yourself, and don't let what other people think affect major life decisions. Do what makes YOU happy, and only you. This is your time to invest in yourself, to enjoy yourself, and to make mistakes. It's okay if not everything is perfect and if stuff doesn't end up like you planned, as long as you gave it a try and followed your heart.
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    Let yourself be angry at people. Don't let their response belittle yours. You being angry at them is the consequence of their horrible actions. Yell, be a total itch with a b. They have earned it and you're doing them even more of a disservice by pretending like it's okay just because you don't want to hurt their feelings. How will they learn that it's not okay to treat people that way and grow into a better person, the kind of person who won't hurt others? Don't lose your cool, but also don't d
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